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Surviving Plus Size Holiday Activities: How to Thrive!

Whether you are ready or not, the holiday season comes every year! Enjoy your plus size holiday activities. This is no time to let your dress or shirt size get in the way of enjoying times with your friends and family.

Plus Size Holiday Activities: Survival Tips

Here are five tips to help you keep your positive body image, your own individual grand style, your holiday spirit — and to thrive throughout the season!

Tip #1: Don’t give up participating in an activity just because of your size.

  • Hire a neighborhood kid (or your nephew!) to hang your holiday house lights or to stand on the ladder and finish off your inside decorating.
  • Make airline travel more comfortable for your rounder tummy and hips by selecting a big plane that is flown by a size-friendly airline. Also be sure to check out the airplane seating charts on seatguru.com, reserve an aisle seat and take your own seat belt extender.
  • Don’t avoid holiday pictures, either formal portraits or informal photos. Remember: Photos capture the memories. You sure don’t want to be without the memories ten years from now just because you thought you have too many chins this year!
  • Go to all the parties and gatherings. For informal get-togethers, Avenue and Catherines are great sources for reasonably-priced, holiday separates. Need a party outfit? You don’t have to spend a mint. “Holiday-up” your black slacks or suit with a red satin blouse or a crisp white blouse with some great braid or velvet ribbon from the sewing counter tied around your waist.
  • For a little more formality, consider adding a gold or silver scarf or pin to a red or black dress. Check out Ulla Popken or Kiyonna for dresses that look great now and for your after-holiday needs. Add a pair of velvet or metallic flats from Wal-mart or Target for less than $15.

Tip #2: Don’t be afraid to create memories that incorporate your personal sense of style.

  • Put a little confetti in your holiday cards.
  • Bake dog and cat treats for gifts for your neighbors (holiday magazines have the recipes).
  • Give indulgence balls as hostess or office gifts. Just fill craft store mesh ornaments with a scented tea candle, a few Hershey kisses, a bubble bath capsule, a tiny sachet pillow, a pair of dice, a few stickers or a gift certificate for ice cream or a cup of coffee or a hamburger.

Tip #3: It’s hard to show your style when you are stressed out.

  • Avoid the malls. Go once to see the decorations and to get into the spirit. Then, come home slip off your shoes and shop online. For extra time and postage savings: Have your selections gift wrapped and shipped directly to your family and friends.
  • Set practical objectives for family gatherings. You can’t solve 20 years of family problems in one afternoon. When your sister harasses you about weight, tell her “Thanks” and change the subject.
  • Don’t wait until January to get your stressed body moving. Start walking today. Put your favorite tunes on the iPod and walk … don’t stroll … around the block, around the mall or in place in front of your TV – but walk.

Tip #4: Give. It’s the best medicine for the hurting heart or the sad soul.

  • Drop off a card or a little surprise at an elderly neighbor’s door.
  • Offer to baby sit while a young mother or couple finish their holiday preparations.
  • Buy a new toy or drop off a warm coat for the women’s shelter.

Tip #5: Use the after holiday sales to your best advantage.

  • Use common sense. Remember: If it didn’t look good on you when it was full price, it’s not going to look any better when it’s half price.
  • Buying on sale lets you purchase clothes that may be a little better made than you usually buy; but, for a lot less money the regular price.
  • Treat your grand style to an item or a color that you truly love but that that you would usually not purchase at full price. Let your style shine through the holidays.

Happy Holidays!

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Helpful Recommendations for Popular Body Acceptance Kids Books

Body shaming and self-acceptance have become hot education topics; so, there are many body acceptance kids books available these days. Some of the books focus on self-esteem, some celebrate all shapes and sizes and some add messages of treating others with kindness. So, the more body acceptance books kids are exposed to, the greater the chance they will start to accept and celebrate their body and the bodies of those around them.

Great Body Acceptance Kids Books

For Ages 1-8

For younger children, look for a book that tells its story using kid-friendly content with colorful images and fun themes. The goal is to find a story line that is so engaging that the child will want to reread the book over and over.

Our GrandStyle editors recommend the following body acceptance books for kids under eight. These books are fun and well-written and, as a result, have proven to be very popular with younger readers and listeners:
Body Acceptance Kids Books - It's OK To Be Different

  • It’s Okay To Be Different Bright colors, witty characters & content and bright-colored silly images…just downright great fun! 4-7 years.
  • Dancing in the Wings Written by choregrapher Debbie Allen. Sassy wants to be a ballerina but she is worried that her feet are too big and her legs are too long. A famous director comes to her class and Sassy does her best to get his attention and win him over. 4-8 years.
  • Your Body is Awesome: Body Respect for Children This book is beautifully written, wonderfully illustrated, easy to read and delivers a very important message in an enchanting manner regardless of age, gender or ethnicity. 4-7 years.
  • Shapesville is a picture book about five friends who are all different shapes, sizes, and colors, each with a unique talent. The characters encourage the reader to be proud of their body. 3-8 years.
  • I am Tooki: A Book About Being You Tooki is a friendly owl who teaches children to love themselves unconditionally, recognize their own uniqueness, and treat others with kindness. 1-8 years.

For Ages 8-Preteen

Older children and preteens are more engaged with a book that tells a powerful story. Therefore, fun, colorful images are not as important as the book’s theme and content.

Here are some of the most popular body acceptance and self-esteem books for the older child and preteens:
Body Acceptance Kids Books - Smile

  • Smile This is the story of a sixth grade girl who falls and injures her two front teeth. Over the next years she suffers through surgery, false teeth, orthodontia and the body blues of a maturing body. The story is well-told and takes the reader through all the challenges faced by a middle school girl. 8-12 years.
  • 45 Pounds (More Or Less) Ann, a sixteen year old girl, is asked to be a bridesmaid by her aunt who is getting married in two months. Ann decides she needs to lose 45 pounds before the wedding. The book has a realistic storyline, believable characters and a story of courage and triumph.

Due to their self-esteeming content, body acceptance kids books can be great presents for kids and teens. And, they also make great contributions for schools, libraries and medical offices.

Body Shaming Words

Stop Body Shaming Plus Size Kids

Stop body shaming plus size kids and stop making weight an issue for all kids…
Stop Body Shaming Plus Size Kids

Body shaming of anyone is cruel. It can cause them to create a negative feeling about themselves and rip apart their self-esteem. Sometimes body shaming is intentional, such as a kid being bullied at school about their weight or an adult being critical of someone’s appearance during a holiday meal. Body shaming can also be unintentional, such as an adult saying “I gained 5 pounds. I’m so fat!” Or, a pediatrician saying “You’ll be happier if your tummy is smaller.”

Body shaming can, and frequently is, unintentional such as making comments about bodies, appearance and weight that can start an upsetting, confusing thought process for someone else.

Need tips on avoiding body shaming? Check out 6 Ways to Combat Body Shaming of Plus Size Kids. For books on explaining body acceptance to kids check out Helpful Recommendations for Popular Body Acceptance Kids Books